I believe in our innate capacity and longing for intimacy and connection, alongside our need for the time and place to be alone and in solitude. As each couple is as unique as the individuals who have paired, how I approach their particular difficulties will be different. I always touch on their relationship dynamics, how they respond to each other and make explicit the patterns that has evolved between them. With deeper understanding of how this pattern has developed while attuning to deeper emotional statements and needs, possibilities open up to respond in different ways that are more conducive to their underlying yearnings of connection. For some, noticing communication styles that have a destructive force makes a great difference in the tone of their relationship. Criticism or self judgement does not change relationships yet understanding your own and your partners learned relational patterns and challenging implicit relational knowing can help couples work on their difficulties. The individuals love language is another way in which couples bring greater awareness to where they are ‘missing’ each other. Working in many eclectic ways on various levels in the relationship broadens the capacity of the couple to move in ways which are freeing and loving at the same time.
What My Clients Say
“The counselling sessions I had with Urja were both enlightening and cathartic. She is an empathetic counsellor who, through her insight and knowledge, assisted me with voicing some deep-seated trauma and pain. Urja created a safe environment that was conducive to me exploring and finding a greater understanding of my anxieties and a greater awareness of my hopes for the future. Thank you Urja”.
“I was very hesitant about going to counselling but finally did so from my need to talk to someone neutral about my problems and concerns. I’m so glad I did! I felt so relieved that someone understood my troubles and I had a good experience. Urja and I worked well together. She was compassionate and professional. Urja encouraged me to work out my own feelings in a very constructive way. I now think more clearly which has led to positive changes in my life”.
“After the death of a close family member, I went through the most difficult time of my life. Urja’s holistic approach to counselling helped me to not only understand and experience grief but more importantly gave me the tools to help myself and keep moving forward. Her support and kindness over a few months showed me much more than I ever imagined. I feel so privileged to have met her”.
“I have, with differing goals and issues enjoyed a series of sessions with Urja. She is a skilled practitioner and a respectful and gentle person and very present for me. Our sessions are interesting, often surprising and have challenged me at times, but I’ve always felt very supported. The outcomes of these wonderful journeys have been deeply transformative”.
“I learnt so much about myself, my mind and body while in counselling with Urja. I found her positive skills and mindfulness exercises which included the sensations and feelings in my body most helpful. I can now relax, breath and smile. My body feels light and warm. I feIt safe, respected, understood. I highly recommend Urja as a therapist. Thank you”..
“I’m very grateful to have found Urja during what was a difficult time for me. Over the course of several months, I found her to be is a skillful, kind, practical, & above all effective therapist. I always felt safe & cared for during our sessions & the benefits I’ve received have been of tremendous help to me. I assume if you’re reading this that you are considering seeking her help – all I can say really is that I hold her in the highest regard & can recommend her to you wholeheartedly”.